Holiday Tips for the Soul

The holidays can be such a challenging time for many people. In the best of times, the stress that comes with overscheduling, financial demands, winter illnesses, forced socializing, short days and cold weather can tax even the heartiest among us. Many people have unrealistic expectations and if their lives don’t look like a Hallmark movie, they feel let down and disappointed. The holidays amp up and add to family challenges: having to spend time with people you don’t want to or in ways that don’t suit you, old wounds get surfaced, overindulgence in food and alcohol, political discord, disconnection, separation, loneliness, and having to travel are among some of the things that stress our systems. The holidays are so commercialized and for many have lost their meaning. All of this can result in a lot of ick and the holiday season begins to take on weight.

Soul care is important year-round but is especially important in the sprint that is Halloween through New Year’s Day. Our advice is to simplify, simplify, simplify. You really don’t have to cut down your Christmas tree, do the cookie exchange, the gingerbread decorating contest, zoo lights, the Gaylord, a candlelight concert, go ice skating, take in a holiday market, ride the Santa train, do elf on the shelf…you get the idea.

Put first things, first. What do you value, what’s important to you, what do you cherish? Don’t forgo taking care of yourself. Do the basics (exercise, eat healthy-ish, drink lots of water and get at least 8 hours of sleep a night.) Don’t give up your quiet time, remember silence, solitude and stillness are soul food. What about the holidays nourishes your soul? Do those things and remember, less is more.

Spend time in meaningful connection with others. This involves conversation, contemplation, probing, listening, introspection, authenticity and vulnerability. Do you have a place to do this on a regular and consistent basis? Group therapy provides these opportunities in a safe, confidential and curated way. Come experience a place where you can share your experiences and get validation and guidance on how to navigate this season and every season.

Love,

Malia & Kristi